It’s December 30. My house is a disaster. I have three baskets of laundry waiting to be folded. It’s 11 am. I’m in my jammies and I just ate a cookie for my morning snack. I’m in the time warp of Winter Holidays. You know the one. It doesn’t matter what you celebrate because as I talk with friends Jewish, Muslim and Christian, it’s all the same from roughly December 23-January 1.
There is a hint of “shoulds” as you look at your kitchen sink, but you know somehow the dishes will take care of themselves and children will get fed. There are intentions of organizing, cleaning, baking or just simply showering and getting dressed before noon. Instead, you’ve spent the morning scrolling Facebook and playing a game with your kids or finishing up a wonderful book as you pour your second cup of coffee. Expectations are wonderfully low. Kids don’t really have to bathe or get up in the morning for school. Someone in the house may need to work, but you’re not quite sure what time and trust that they’ll figure it out on their own.
Gifts are randomly piled in corners waiting to be put away. But I haven’t gotten around to it because I haven’t cleared out the old stuff to make room for the new.
As I linger in my comfy bear jammies, I see I’m no different than my overstuffed closet. I need to make room for the new. As we say farewell to 2019, take a few moments in your jammies and your chaotic house to clear some space. Look back on what this last year brought you and write down these 4 questions.
What are you most grateful for in 2019?
What has been dragging you down?
What is no longer serving you?
How will you gently let it go?
As you ask yourself these questions, notice the way your body responds to each one. Our bodies know before our brains. What sensations come up? Heat? Cold? Rapid heart? Quicker breath? Tingling or itching somewhere? What is your body asking you to release and surrender to the past?
Know that you don’t need to have the most eloquent or meaningful answer to the question. Maybe you just want to let go of hitting the snooze button every morning. Maybe you want to let go of anger you’ve been holding on to for way too long. There are no wrong answers.
Ritualize it. A small slip of paper with a few words and a match will do. Or, write it with chalk on a rock and throw it into the nearest body of water you can find: a creek, a pond or a bucket. If you live near a river, lake or ocean, go for it. But there is no need to make this complicated or you simply won’t do it. Heck, a scrap of paper and a trash can work just fine.
I know my house will eventually get cleaned up. Laundry will be folded. Gifts will be put away. Dishes will make their way to the dishwasher. I will shower before noon again soon enough. And as I linger in my comfy jammies, I take a few moments to reflect on the last year and clear out the cobwebs to welcome the new.
In what ways will you make space for the new?